A bit of hope

As an update to yesterday's blog.
I heard back early evening yesterday in regards to my blood work results. The good news is that my hormone levels came out nicely; therefore, it showed that this ovarian cyst is not a hormone producing cyst. This means that my doc feels comfortable removing it, and allowing us to finally begin an IVF cycle!! Yahoo!!! Not sure yet exactly when our cycle will officially begin, but I have an appointment for tomorrow to have the cyst removal. I am assuming that after that, they will schedule us for what's called a "calendar review". The calendar is personalized for us, in regards to how often and how much of the injections I will give myself, as well as a plan of action for the egg retrival. I am very ready to get started.
The outpour of genuine support from friends, both near us as well as across the country has been overwhelming. I appreciate so much the kind words and willing to let me vent. That's all I really am asking of my friends. To just be able to say something along the lines of "I am here for you. I can listen all you need, and I am sorry you are going through this." That is the kindest thing a friend could say. But I understand that when another person is going through a traumatic experience, we sometimes don't really know what to say or what that person needs. So at the risk of offending people, I am going to be clear about what I do and don't need right now. Please be kind, and just find empathy for our situation. Saying "I'm sorry you're going through this" goes a long way. Please don't offer up suggestions on how to have a family. This means please don't suggest adoption or a surrogate. We as an infertile couple have already thought of every option, and for our own reasons have found these other options don't work for us. Please don't tell us something along the lines of "What will be will be." After all, would you say that to a friend who has been diagnosed with cancer, and is doing everything medically they can to fight it? Also, please don't in all fun suggest that you would trade your kids with me to have the freedom or other perks such as massages to help with my infertility. Again, would you in all fun say that to a friend who is getting treatments to help with their fight against cancer? I don't think so. If you scoff at the idea that infertility is in no way comparable to cancer, then you just have been fortunate enough to not have to understand. It is just as painful emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and as difficult on a marriage. Just as you would not know what it would feel like for your friend being treated for cancer, you could not imagine what it's like for me being treated for infertility. I know that people's hearts are usually in the right place, but please just be kind with your words.
Thank you for following me on this journey. The support is what helps Jeff and I continue sometimes. Blessings.